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What is a soulmate for you?

Anne Heche was asked by Delaina Dixon and Carol Glines in an interview about who inspired her, and her answer was that it was her husband Coleman "Coley" Laffoon. "Whatever he says, goes. He's the wisest man I've ever met," she replied.

While it sounds so romantic, generally speaking such blind regard for your spouse is unhealthy. Indeed, it is possible that you consider your lover as your soul-mate, but to somehow imagine that s/he is whatever(est), means that you have lost your objectivity. I might accept the argument that she just has not met many men or many wise men, but generally speaking, I reserve an adjective like "the wisest man" for people like Albert Einstein or Shakespeare or Socrates or someone of that stature.

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So how to look at your soulmate?

Experts will argue forever if a soulmate even exists but let us accept for a moment that many couples may find that in their definition of soulmate, their partner is one - and in reality, that is what really matters. But how should you treat your so-called soulmate, particularly if you are a woman? Here are a few tips:

A soulmate is one you have an emotional and/or spiritual bond. It does not mean that you allow this person to take over all aspects of your life.
Codependent relationships are not healthy. Do not make him the center of your life in every aspect.
Empowered women are the most attractive. Don't become his puppet.
A relationship that is not based on mutual respect is doomed. If your "wisest" husband does not respect you for your strengths, it is not a loving relationship.

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