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Relationships
between teachers and students
A dangerous territory indeed
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Tanya is in love with a student at her
university. To make things worse, she is married to a maniac and
also has a four-year old son. Fortunately, she does not teach
him. "I am
head over heels in love with this young man and cannot
resist the temptation to see him as often as possible. I first
met him when he was giving me a ride in his cab - which he does
part-time to support himself. He often comes to my classroom
every day to say hello, to help me, for example, to hang the
board, etc. He is always polite and caring. Thanks goodness my
students and other teachers at University are used to the fact
that men flirt with me. I am the youngest teacher here and
look younger than 30, so they invite me to parties and picnics.
I need him. When I see him I feel relaxed and happy," she writes
to us. We have always supported a
woman's right to cheat when her husband does not love her or can not give her what she needs - emotionally and physically. Having said that, cheating is "dangerous." If you do get caught, you could get into a lot of trouble not only from your husband but also socially.
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You must also study the
HR policies at your university so that if it does become public knowledge that you two have a romantic relationship, what the implications are for you.
Most institutions do not allow such
relationships. If you actually teach him, the consequences can be serious. Plus, gossip is not good.
(Related:
How to introduce a younger boyfriend)
Office romance is rarely a good
idea. There are dozens of other places to meet people for romantic relationships but what we are seeing is that as we spend more and
more time in the office and work late in the night or even all night, it is but natural to
get attracted to your colleagues (in your case, students around you).
It is something that is very delicate and needs to be balanced carefully. A mom who happens to be a professor fools around with a young student has all the elements of a campus scandal.
So my recommendation is that you focus
on fixing
the problems in your marriage
first before pursuing this
relationship.
Related
article: Rules
for dating younger men
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