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Arranged
marriages
What are the alternatives?
Amit, a
young man from India writes
from New Jersey, "I think
it is very likely that if I don't
find my
partner soon enough, my parents and family will
suggest an
arranged marriage
with an Indian woman. While I have no
problem with an arranged marriage, I want to
marry someone that I fall in love with first -
what if I don't love my wife. Please help." |
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Arranged marriages have worked for centuries in many
cultures and is still used in some form almost all
over the world (e.g. blind date in the west, or
omiai
in Japan, etc.). So it is not a bad idea to try to
find someone that you know for sure is more
compatible with you. Here are a few tips to get
started:
- Be where the women are. Isn't that simple? The
closer you are to women, better the chances for
finding the one that you will like. So looking at
your situation, find the right places and moments.
- Be yourself.
Do not fake or act.
- Take the initiative. Yeah, sometimes a woman might
fall into your lap, but chances are that like
anything else in life, you will need to compete or
at least try. So
approach someone you like, break
the ice, and from then on just be a gentleman.
- Be patient. It takes time to find that special
someone, but the odds go up when you are always
trying.
- Don't get discouraged by failure. That is just the
fact of life. Just because a woman rejects you, it
does not mean that there is anything wrong with you
- it could be that she
already likes someone else,
is not interested in a relationship, is
shy, or
whatever. So move on - you will be better off trying
your luck with someone else than trying to convince
a disinterested woman.
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