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In a recent presentation by Diane von Furstenberg that I attended at
Sephora in Boston, she had a lot of insightful words. A few struck me but none as this: “Early on in my life, I became my best friend.”
Who is the best friend? What are the qualities that make a great friend, the one we all want to have? Sincerity, patience, always looking for the good in us,
good listener, giving second, third, fourth or any number of chances, never giving up on us, helping us even when we do not deserve it, stopping us from make mistakes, be brutally honest to make us open our eyes to danger, giving us love,
have fun with us, enjoy together a good cup of coffee or tea, surprising us once in a while, and whatever else that is important to us.
We can be our best friend and this is so profound that will also make us to be other people’s good friend,
better lovers and better human beings. It is not an esoteric experience; it is a real and easy one.
Be in your own mind first
The first thing to do is what some people call visualization. Visualize yourself the way you want to be. Think kindly of yourself, but never tell yourself lies. If you think negatively or go around
with a defensive attitude this will reflect in your personality.
(Related:
Jessica Simpson unable to forget Nick
Lachey)
Accept yourself
When making a mistake or looking at what may appear as negative aspects of you, before you proceed to call yourself by names, take a moment to breathe to cool down. Then analyze the circumstances and determine what is the lesson learned, but do not feel guilt or blame yourself over and over. Learn and move on. Take action.
Practice positive thinking
Pay attention to what you are telling yourself in your mind. Replace every negative thought with three positive thoughts about you.
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Be honest and be yourself
Many things or beliefs are what the society or other people have put into our minds. Learn to listen to yourself, to your heart and you will know truly who you are and what you want to be.
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Empower yourself
Think in terms of possibility and happiness. Do not think in terms of failure or guilt. You are the only one that can allow your dreams to be true, and you can do it.
Be happy
This is the ultimate goal, be happy. Happiness is not a goal but a way of life. Every moment we are happy or unhappy. Live every moment; enjoy each breath out of your mouth.
Be your best friend
You can be your best friend and should try because it will make you even happier.
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