How can my boyfriend change so much?

He is not the man that I fell in love with

Alyssa had to face a lot of opposition from her family to date and move on with her much older boyfriend. When that happened, she thought she found eternal happiness, but things turned out differently than she anticipated. She writes, "I am ending the relationship with my boyfriend. As much as it pains me to do so I cannot help but feel unhappy with him nowadays. Every thing about him lately I hate. If I move out and move back home with my parents, it will be over. We will never speak or see each other again and he knows that, but yet when I say I am going to leave he sits back and just says 'that's up to you' like he couldn't give a care in the world. It's upsetting me so much that I am almost in tears everyday. He used to be so wonderful and caring but it looks like that man is gone and I can't seem to get him back. If I try to talk to him about any of this he will just tell me he's not in the form like other times. I am not sure this man knows how much I gave up and lost for him. It's breaking my heart. Please help me get him back."

To me it appears that there maybe more to the story than you know. My initial reaction is that he is probably depressed or is simply going through a low phase in his life. Unless there was something else that happened prior to this change in behavior, spend some time thinking of the sequence of events to analyze what could have happened at his work or in any other aspect of his life (like family, friends, etc.) that could have triggered such lack of emotion. I think when things are not working out it is fine to end a relationship but you want to make sure that you did not leave him while he was just going through a rough patch. As you can appreciate, we all go through ups and downs in our emotional well being. A man who you loved so much and he was supportive during the whole process cannot just change like that. Maybe something radical has changed his heart but you do want to make sure that it is not something else that can be overcome through your support and understanding.

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