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With two out of three people with
weight
problems, it is not surprising that you too have a weight problem. While there are sometimes medical reasons for being
overweight, in most cases,
obesity is of our own making. We have always said that either you change or you adapt to your current situation, but there is no merit in suffering and making others miserable. So make yourself as you want to be or you love better yourself as you are. Of course, it is easier said than done.
Why are you not feeling pretty?
Are you
feeling bad because you are overweight? You should try to have a
healthy weight, but you should not beat yourself up every single moment because of being overweight. Just consider that under current beauty standards, Marilyn Monroe would have been considered fat. All those beautiful women in the pinup calendars of just 50 years ago will be considered chubby right now. Beauty standards change frequently. You do not have to be as skinny as
Paris Hilton is; you just have to be healthy and have a weight that is right for your height and age.
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Beauty itself is a result of
self-esteem and
self-love; it is not as much a physical attribute as it is a mental attribute. A recent survey showed that most women around the world do not think of themselves as pretty, but those who think that they are pretty are
treated better by men, are
happier, and more successful. If you keep criticizing yourself and focus only on the negatives, you will became even more insecure and feel even worse. This will only make your relationship worse.
There is no easy solution, but you can change and start to
take better care of yourself and improve your
self-image. Try
visualization. Every time you surprise yourself being critical of your image in silence, stop and think about something positive such as, “I am intelligent, have great
legs, expressive
eyes, am compassionate, etc.” When you see yourself in the mirror and see something wrong before you try to correct it or feel bad, say three
positive things about yourself and how you look. (Related
article: Lose
weight by reading positive messages)
Do what
Oprah does. Keep a diary of gratitude. Write every night all the beautiful things you saw during the day and great things that happened to you. You will see that little by little you will
feel much better about yourself.
And in the meantime it is not a bad idea to
work on losing weight.
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