How to find a great relationship

Guide for relationship
Ask the right questions

By Imfwama Wotela

I have been discussing the importance of finding a relationship that is going to create value for you, your partner, and people around you, including children that may be a result of a relationship. It is very important to first ask yourself what is the main purpose that you seek a relationship. Once that is clear in your mind, you will be better off in setting the goals and developing a path to get there. (Related: Jessica Simpson unable to forget Nick Lachey)

To develop a plan for finding a relationship, I am listing here at least some questions that you need to ask. Let me say that this is not the only questions that you need to ask. You might have your own set of questions. Add them to the list. Similarly, there are questions that may not be relevant to your situation. Ignore them for the time being. What is important is that you ask the questions and then seek their answers. It is perfectly fine to sit down with your partner and ask the questions directly. Tell her/him that knowing the answer is important to you. So be real with yourself and ask the following questions:

Questions for finding a good relationship

Be of the same or similar interest
Be able to talk
Ask about her/his religion/faith/belief system? Do you agree with it or at least can you live with it?
Is age a problem with you? Is s/he too old or too young? If so can you still live with and love her/him?
Do you feel safe with her/him?
How does he treat animals or children?
If things get serious and s/he wants marriage, what would you say?
How about her/his race, nationality, ethnicity, etc.? Do you mind?
Are you able to introduce her/him to your friends, parents, etc. with pride?
Are you proud of her/him?
Are you able to hold hands or be seen together in public?
Do you like her/him? If yes, what do you like?
Do you mind him kissing or touching or being physically intimate with you?
How about his personal choices with respect to style and habits? Are you OK with it?
Eat out together so that you see how s/he behaves
Visit her/his place and see how s/he lives or does s/he still live with her/his parents?
What is her/his family like? How do they treat her/him?
Does s/he have heavy responsibilities (e.g. children from previous marriage or elderly parents who need to be taken care of)?
What is the family history like?
Is s/he organized?
Does s/he work?
What do you think about a joint bank account?
At the end of the day, do you still want see her/him? Is it worth the trouble?

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