I am heartbroken after breaking up

I now regret ending the relationship but it was not working

Angela was living with a man who she thought was the love of her life. Well, he was an excellent boyfriend and treated her so well that she was willing to go against the wishes of family and friends who did not think that a 21 year old girl should move in with an older, single dad who was financially tight. However, Prince Charming was so sweet to her that she thought she could take on the world if she were with him. She writes, "Unfortunately, the honeymoon did not last too long and as his financial problems mounted, What really is love and how to know it?

he started to mistreat me. While he did not breakup with me but the way he ignored me, he almost wished that I were gone. And when I asked him if that is what he wanted, he would not answer one way or the other. So I have left him yesterday. And now I know it was the wrong thing to do. We had a falling out and he told me he doesn't want me and then I told him I was going back home. Now maybe he didn't think I'd do it because all he said was it was up to me. When it was time, I told him I was leaving and then he didn't want me to go. He said he was sorry and that it was just the pressure of everything. But it was too late because my mother came to pick me up. When I was waiting for her he grabbed hold of me, told me he loved me and that he was sorry. But my mother was outside and it was too late to turn back. Now that I am home I miss him and regret leaving him. I can go back if I want but what will that do to my family? Either I'm unhappy and heartbroken or they are. Please help me."

Your emotions are natural at this point. You put so much into this relationship, gave it your best, did not want to leave, but it was clear that he did not appreciate it. If he did, why would he not beg you to stop you from leaving all along. Why did he keep saying that it was up to you when you talked about leaving? Why did he not say that together you two could overcome any challenges? Why did he not say all along you that he is proud and honored to have you by his side because that gives him the courage to fight the obstacles in life?

Whatever reaction he had was a realization that maybe he never really appreciated what a great woman you were and how idiotic he was to let you go. Maybe at some point he will regret the decisions he made, but the sad reality is that you gave him enough opportunity to hold your hand and he refused it.

You have done nothing wrong, you are a strong woman, and thankfully, you have a place where you are welcome. Remember that human beings are very resilient; we are even able to move on from deaths of loved ones. Breakups and divorces are painful but eventually we all manage to start all over again. I know it will be tough but I am very confident that you will be just fine. Just see if you can take some time off for yourself to take a vacation and reconnect with old friends and family.