How to be an independent woman

Women must learn to be independent
Being in love and a committed relationship does not mean being codependent

By Imfwama Wotela

Women, especially when they finally get married, tend to become relaxed and lazy to a point that they end up neglecting some of their goals and end up being totally dependant on their partners or husbands for their sustenance. It is only when they land in trouble that they realize that they should have done something with their lives.

This can happen when the husband loses his job or when he dies that you see a woman really stumble and lose sight because she realizes that she took life for granted and has forgotten how to use her mind to think as she assumed the breadwinner would always be there. (Related: How to leave an abusive partner)

So ladies, no matter how comfortable you may be in your present marriage/relationship, never forget that if you are consuming what you have not worked for, it is someone else’s sweat and when that supply gets shut, you are doomed. Even if the man has a role to play as the provider. It’s also important that you cultivate yourself into a woman with a vision. I am sure that any good man would be proud to live with such a woman and would invest in her even much more. Note: People invest where there is a potential.
I believe that it is discovering what your purpose is that will determine your attitude in life. Unfortunately, this is one weakness among many others that I have observed among women, which has put a lot of them in trouble. It is true women love to shop and require a lot of things which can not be regarded as important to the male species, so I think it is always better to have what is yours than to keep begging for money to buy even the smallest feminine things you need. Besides being empowered, I believe it will also give you a sense of integrity, self worth, and a sense of belonging - you feel useful and valuable that you are capable of doing something productive.

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