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Can an
average Joe be successful in finding a
relationship?
Denise Richards, involved in a messy
divorce with Charlie Sheen, recently told
Harper's Bazaar, "The process of
getting
divorced is so hard. It should
be harder to
get married....and easier to
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I agree
with her only partly. I think it should be difficult
to both get married and divorce. We are already too
casual about dating,
breakups,
marriages,
and
divorces. While no one is saying that people
should suffer or get stuck in a
dead-end
relationship, the harder it would be get married or
file for a
divorce, the harder couples will work for their
relationships to work.
(Related link:
Women
are always attracted to men with high self-esteem)
Why do we have so many relationship
problems these days?
- We are dating too much. A person may have her/his
first
relationship as a teenager and by the time
they get married, they may have over a dozen
relationships (not counting
flings and one-night
stands). So many relationships and breakups in such
a short period of time take
their toll.
- Romanticization of marriage and
wedding. I recently
tried to dissuade an 18-year old from marrying her
boyfriend who refuses to
please her and has even
suggested
swinging to
spice their relationship. She
does not want to listen and hopes that their wedding
will make everything beautiful. No, it won't.
(Related:
How to get love from a man?)
- Less inclination to make a marriage work. While
financial independence for women has been a great
development, it also means that both men and women
are
now less inclined to make compromises - a must for
any relationship to work.
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