What do women want from men?

What do women want from men?
Small things that can make a big difference in the relationships of couples

By Imfwama Wotela

Every woman dreams of the day she will find or meet her Prince Charming, who will take her away to ‘a happy ever after life.’ To a certain extent it’s possible, but ultimately it’s just a pipe dream. Finding the right partner is a challenge in itself but there is hope because you have to work at it, and yes, you will find one. In order to find the right partner you need to use both your head and heart. Not just your emotions, but your intelligence too. Remember feelings come and feelings go. So wise up.

A woman is a special being who yearns to be loved and appreciated and is not as difficult as men perceive them to be. So here are some of the things that a woman wants:

Loved and told that she is beautiful just the way she is. She wants to hear the words "I love you" often. Mind you they don’t get tired of hearing this.

They want honesty and sincerity. Women record every detail or word they hear and that is why they are able to narrate a story or an event accurately. So if you say that you are working late, ensure that you are working late. If you change your plans, do tell them. What is worse is that they even recall what you said or did five years ago, even though they may not tell you. Put the heat or repeat it and you will hear the speech. That is what brings us to the next point. (Related: How to get love from a man?)

Learn to say you are sorry. I don’t think you will lose a bone, an eye or kill your self-esteem by saying you are sorry. Saying sorry will ‘kill’ some of the stuff or baggage from being stored up in a woman’s mind. I believe if you say you are sorry, then you have more guts.

They are insecure beings who want to be assured and appreciated often not only through action but also words.

They need you to be there for them when they are going through a rough patch.

They are natural talkers and want a man who will be patient enough to give them time to hear them. I was amazed when my pastor said, among many other things that, "Give your wife at least 3 hours a day, that is 21 hours a week for her to talk to you." Is that too much to ask for, guys?

They need to be kept occupied with something i.e. take them out, go places and let her know you enjoy her company.

If you have had too many meetings at the office and been too occupied, let her join you at dinner with your clients that evening (if appropriate) or invite her for a drink after you are done with your dinner (again, if possible); if none of this works, pick up some flowers on your way back home. That should relax you both and she will be very confident about herself and know she met the right guy who is not ashamed to be with her in public.

Needs lots of affection and attention. With these she can stay this relationship even if there is no monetary gain. For a woman, money and material are secondary to love and affection.

A call or an email or an instant message or an SMS in the middle of the day to just say "I was thinking about you" etc. will charm her.

These are the little things that you can do to avoid creating a nagging, bitter and unsatisfied woman. If you think these are not important, another clever man will see that this woman lacks some or all of the above and he will do them and you will lose your woman. Just like there are things men want from a relationship, so do women. The important thing is knowing each other’s needs and being able to sacrifice and meet them.

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