| While
men have married much younger women for centuries and women simply accepted it as a fact of life, when the same situation is reversed, men are having some challenges. Let us take a look at Joanna's case, who is a 37 year old woman dating a 26 year old man. She says, "We are
in love, and have a lot in common, but he sometimes has a problem within his head, I am only 3 years older than his biological mother (he was adopted). She was 14 when she had him. He seems to get over the hang up, but time to time it freaks him out. He wants to be with me, but I want to know how to help him get over this hangup."
(Related article: Dating
younger man) |
|
 What he is going through is perfectly natural simply because as a society we are still getting used to this idea of
dating someone who is somewhat older than
you. The key to making him feel good about the relationship with you is that you need to explain to him that while you may be older than his mother, it is because his case is very rare. You are simply 11 years older than him and that is not a big age gap any more.
(Related:
How to introduce a younger boyfriend)
Based on interviews that we have conducted, the age gap for many couples is even wider. 10-15 years is very common age difference. And that is why for him to compare you to his mother is inappropriate. Women like his mother can become grandmas at the age at which most people do not even have their first child. It means nothing. Most women do not have babies at the age he was born. (Related
article: Date
a young guy)
The second thing that you can do is to let him deal with it on his own, rather than defending yourself or the relationship or trying to explain to him what in reality is not easy to explain. If he likes you, as you say, what he values is YOU and eventually he will figure out that in order to have you, he has to accept everything about you including the fact that you are as old as his mother.
(Related article: Real
story of a woman dating a much younger
man)
|
