Attracting a reluctant woman: tips and ideas for men
Tony has a little problem. He was trying to pick up a fine-looking waitress at a night club. He writes, "She seemed nice to me but after a friendly small talk, I asked her if she would have coffee with me after her shift, and then she told me about her boyfriend. Should I have persisted ? If a girl says to you that she has a boyfriend, does she mean it, or is it just a way to repel a potentially crazy stranger?"
Well, the first thing to know is that she may be absolutely truthful and you have to give her the benefit of doubt.
Having said that, it is also important to note that when a woman does not want to bothered (or wants to play hard-to-get or is not attracted to you), it is an excuse that is the easiest one to make and almost always works. Waitresses get hit on every single day and most bars and restaurants do not allow flirting with customers. So they have to come up with polite excuses that work for everyone. But none of this means that women don't dump their boyfriends or husbands for more desirable men.
If a woman puts you off, particularly when she is casually dating someone and is not in a committed relationship, often times it's because she's not yet attracted enough to you to give you a chance. She's only going to jump at opportunities that she deems are beneficial to her. Meaning, even if she has a boyfriend (or a committed partner or husband), if she wants you badly enough, she'll go after you. On the other hand, if you haven't proven yourself as a desirable commodity, she won't initially be interested.
What can you do to make a woman attracted to you?
This is assuming that she is in fact single or can be coaxed into becoming single because you are the hottest guy on the planet (but you must back off if you realize that she is in fact not single or not willing to dump him even if you are the opportunity of a lifetime). What you have to do is to really make sure she knows that you are not just another one of the umpteen billion guys who hit on her every day but is seriously attracted to her.
Think about it: She gets guys hitting on her ALL the time. How will she know who to go out with and who to ignore? What you have to do is to give enough reasons to dump her existing boyfriend and go out with you. This is not always easy because you now have strong competition. Here are a few things to try to attract a woman:
Well, the first thing to know is that she may be absolutely truthful and you have to give her the benefit of doubt.
Having said that, it is also important to note that when a woman does not want to bothered (or wants to play hard-to-get or is not attracted to you), it is an excuse that is the easiest one to make and almost always works. Waitresses get hit on every single day and most bars and restaurants do not allow flirting with customers. So they have to come up with polite excuses that work for everyone. But none of this means that women don't dump their boyfriends or husbands for more desirable men.
If a woman puts you off, particularly when she is casually dating someone and is not in a committed relationship, often times it's because she's not yet attracted enough to you to give you a chance. She's only going to jump at opportunities that she deems are beneficial to her. Meaning, even if she has a boyfriend (or a committed partner or husband), if she wants you badly enough, she'll go after you. On the other hand, if you haven't proven yourself as a desirable commodity, she won't initially be interested.
What can you do to make a woman attracted to you?
This is assuming that she is in fact single or can be coaxed into becoming single because you are the hottest guy on the planet (but you must back off if you realize that she is in fact not single or not willing to dump him even if you are the opportunity of a lifetime). What you have to do is to really make sure she knows that you are not just another one of the umpteen billion guys who hit on her every day but is seriously attracted to her.
Think about it: She gets guys hitting on her ALL the time. How will she know who to go out with and who to ignore? What you have to do is to give enough reasons to dump her existing boyfriend and go out with you. This is not always easy because you now have strong competition. Here are a few things to try to attract a woman:
- Be persistent, without being a pest or a stalker. Keep showing your interest in her to demonstrate that you are genuinely interested in her. All women appreciate guys who admire them and want to have them.
- Charm your way into her heart. If for any reason she is not interested in dating you, you might be able to break down those barriers by touching her soul. Make her think of you when she is alone. That is when she will smile back at you some day and say 'yes' for your proposal to have coffee with her.
- Be creative. It is hard for us to tell you exactly what you can do without more details, but do something out of the ordinary that will make her realize that you are different and worth dumping someone or entering into a new relationship.
Suggested reading: How to attract a woman?
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