Is there a right age to marry?
Dr. Neil Clark Warren is a well-respected expert and is more widely known as the founder of online dating website eHarmony that essentially targets marriage-minded individuals to find the right relationship. In his article about the rigth age to marry, Dr. Warren has made a strong case why couples need to wait (to marry) before they are fully mature to appreciate the huge responsibility that comes with marriage.
Trish, one of our readers, seems to agree with most of the arguments put forward by Dr. Warren but she thinks that not all people mature at the same time. She writes, "I definitely understand what Dr. Warren is saying, but he cannot base society as a whole for being imature from the ages of 18-22. I am 21 and will be 22 shortly. I have been living on my own now for the past year and a half, have a full-time job, still attend college full-time, and understand myself as an individual. I have also been in a relationship for the past two years. We are serious and know that we will get married to each other someday, but first have to do things for ourselves (finishing college, living on our own, etc.) before we take the next step in life. I want my "future husband" to be well-educated and to gain his own independence before I ever marry him. We will probably get married at 23/24 and we both don't want children (maybe later in live late 20's early 30's). The couple you used as an example clearly didn't think about the "marriage" bit, only about the "in love" part. Yes, being in love is great, especially when you have found your soulmate, but marriage is lots of work and I personally believe that 18 year olds don't have what it takes to keep a marriage alive. There isn't a "right age" to get married. It all depends on the maturity level of that couple, but in today's society people take a little bit longer to grow-up."
What do you think? When did you get married or when do you plan to get married? Do you think you know what marriage means? Share your thoughts with us.
Related article: When only one partner is mature (old?), how to deal with the situation
Trish, one of our readers, seems to agree with most of the arguments put forward by Dr. Warren but she thinks that not all people mature at the same time. She writes, "I definitely understand what Dr. Warren is saying, but he cannot base society as a whole for being imature from the ages of 18-22. I am 21 and will be 22 shortly. I have been living on my own now for the past year and a half, have a full-time job, still attend college full-time, and understand myself as an individual. I have also been in a relationship for the past two years. We are serious and know that we will get married to each other someday, but first have to do things for ourselves (finishing college, living on our own, etc.) before we take the next step in life. I want my "future husband" to be well-educated and to gain his own independence before I ever marry him. We will probably get married at 23/24 and we both don't want children (maybe later in live late 20's early 30's). The couple you used as an example clearly didn't think about the "marriage" bit, only about the "in love" part. Yes, being in love is great, especially when you have found your soulmate, but marriage is lots of work and I personally believe that 18 year olds don't have what it takes to keep a marriage alive. There isn't a "right age" to get married. It all depends on the maturity level of that couple, but in today's society people take a little bit longer to grow-up."
What do you think? When did you get married or when do you plan to get married? Do you think you know what marriage means? Share your thoughts with us.
Related article: When only one partner is mature (old?), how to deal with the situation
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