It is very natural to expect that when couples get bogged down with jobs/kids/bills, their private life takes a hit. It should not happen that way, but for vast majority of people that is what happens. (Related article: How to save your marriage?)
Let us read what Lavonne is going through. She tells us, "My fiance recently went out of town for two weeks on business. When he left we were having a few problems. I decided to look at the big picture and myself. I had changed a lot. I wasn't the romantic, sexy woman he had fallen in love with. Our bedroom was full of books from school and my nightwear had gone from sexy to slumpy. So while he was gone, I gave our bedroom a makeover, as well as myself. I chose a dark Burgundy color with accents of gold, dark wood, and a big plush area rug. I added soft lights, candles, and of course, bought some new lingerie. I must admit, everything looks and feels great! I even bought some new music and a new video." Lavonne later wrote back to say that the scene was reminiscent of what you would see on a makeover program like The Swan or Queer Eye for the Straight Girl. "He was simply shocked, to say the least, but after that it was like the old times again," she tells MYNIPPON.
Alicia, a woman in her thirties, says that the realization happened to her when she was told by a friend that, "You can't feel sexy if you are dressed sloppy." Such simple advice, but so true. If you are dressed in a long T-shirt, forget about feeling sexy or making your partner feel that way about you. Put on some sheer lingerie and not only will you feel different, so will your partner. And when you create the right ambiance by doing a bedroom makevoer and adding candles and music, the effect is remarkable.
On a final note, if there are deeper issues with your relationship, some of these things will definitely help, but you need to deal with those as well.
Tips to heat up things in the bedroom
- If you can not afford to spend even a dollar, at least clean it up thoroughly. It is not a storeroom; neither a place for dirty laundry.
- If you can spend something, decorate it tastefully as Lavonne did. Use your imagination but the ultimate goal is to make it an inviting place.
- Many men and women think that because they are going to sleep and no one will see them, it is a good time to use old T shirts or buy something cheap. They try to spend more on what they would wear outside the home. Wrong approach! While you must good look outside, you have to look even better when you are in front of your lover. We personally recommend that whether you sleep alone or with someone, you need to dress the same way so that it becomes part of your personality and style. (Related article: Lingerie for wife)
- Finally, use whatever help you can get from music, videos, aphrodisiac, pheromones, or anything else to make it exciting.
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