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Why do my parents hate my
older boyfriend?
He is better than any man that I have ever dated |
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 Amanda writes, "Being in love
with an older man can be wonderful. I am in a
relationship with
a man who is 12 years older than me (I am 20). It is true as
they say 'the older the fiddle, the sweeter the tune.' I have
had the best of times with my partner than I have ever had with
any of my ex's. He loves me and I love him dearly. But not a lot
of people see it that way as in
love is love, and
age is just a
number. When my parents found out about me and him they lost the
plot. They took my car, phone, my freedom to leave the house or
talk to my
friends. Granted at that time I was 19 but they
couldn't understand what it meant to me or how I felt about him.
They dodged him down to the ground, made me feel like a tramp,
like I was doing something wrong and what were other people
going to think. But I didn't care because when I was kept from
the rest of the world he was telling people to let me know that
he was waiting and he wasn't giving up. He loved me and that
wasn't going to go away. After some time I got my freedom back
and things kinda went back to the way they were. I got to talk
to him, on the down low, and see him every now and again. When
I'm with him I forget the pain that I went through and the
things that were said to me. When I'm with him I fill up with
such a feeling that
I know to be love. Of course things can't go
that way forever. Again my parents found out and tried to do the
same thing again, but not this time. I escaped from home and
stayed with a friend. After some time I had to
move in with him
and let me tell you, I was happy and felt like some of the
darkness had lifted. He's taken care of me and my
needs like any
man should. All I wish for is for my parents to accept that we
want to be together and
I am happy with him. Why can't I have
family and my
love in my life together?" |
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Regarding your parents, my
answer is a bit philosophical. Rather than hoping for a miracle
that they will see the world through your eyes and be willing to
support you for your
happiness, you should simply
focus on your
relationship.
Give your man the love that he gives you and
invest in your relationship, because that is where you will see
results. Trying to convince your parents is a fruitless exercise
because they are already convinced that what you are doing is
not good for you and there is no need for them to change.
My only hope is that when they see
you over time that you are happy, in love, and that man takes
good care of you, they might yield and recognize that they were
wrong all along. In case they still don't, at least you will be
in a
great relationship. |
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mother wants me to be with another man
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